1/25/15

Best Friends Ever

You know that question after you have your first baby: how could I possibly love another child as much as the one I already have? I had that same question run through my mind after my 1st baby, but once my 2nd baby was born that question seemed ridiculous. You love them both equally. It just happens and you understand. 

So far I have 3 kids and I love them all equally. I honestly don't have a favorite, but the question I am faced with now is: how do I let each child know that they are special and unique to me? 


One on one dates and activities with each kid is probably the best answer for that, but I'm at a stage in my life where I'm with all my kids 98% of the time. Nap times are slowly fading and we get busy so one-on-one time is hard to come by. I wish I could schedule myself out daily to each of my kids for a few hours to give them individual attention, but I doubt that is going to happen anytime soon. So how do I let each of my children feel special and unique?

A simple solution for me is having special talks with each of my kids at bedtime. Sometimes this is my only one-on-one time with them that day. It may not be a fun date with an activity and it may only last about 3 minutes but I focus on them. I tell them all the things they did that day that I was proud of and something that makes them special to me.

One thing I tell my oldest son, during these talks, is that he is my "special" (not to be confused with my "favorite"). He loves the Lego movie, so I tell him he is the most talented and most extraordinary boy in the world because of all the good things he did that day. He smiles because he is so proud. He knows I think he is amazing.


My youngest son is still so young, but we already have a special bond. When I put him to bed, I make sure I tell him he is the most handsome boy in the whole world and blow him a kiss from his bedroom door. He always blows me a kiss back. And then I do it again. And then he does it again. And this goes on and on and on and he ends up laughing so hard. He won't remember these times when he grows up but he will grow up knowing that I took the time to focus on him. He knows he is special to me.


And last is my daughter. I lay in bed with her and tell her that she is my favorite girl in the whole world. I tell her that she is prettier than Cinderella and Rapunzel and Belle and Elsa and every princess in the whole world. I tell her all the things I was proud of her for doing that day. Then, she hugs me goodnight and says "You my best friend ever!" 


Best Friends Ever. A best friend makes you feel special and unique. A best friend focuses on all the great and wonderful things about you. These special bedtime talks are helping me establish this best friend status with my kids. Even though I am busy during the day, I am never too busy to focus on my kids for a few minutes at night. And these few minutes let my kids know I think they are unique and special to me.